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Ever just felt like pregnancy and birth sucks and you're tired of keeping those thoughts to yourself?

Along the wall, behind the ivy, you'll find a hidden door... inside is a hidden world of ancient beauty, anticipation and hard work.

In this garden, anything goes.

You're excited.  You've plastered your walls with positive mantra posters.  You've encouraged all your friends to take birth classes.  You have a doula.  Maybe you're birthing in a birth center or at home.  You think positive about your pregnancy and birth.  You've prepped for natural birth.  Maybe you've even watched Orgasmic Birth and anticipate an enjoyable smooth labor.

Then, sometimes... birth sucks.

Sometimes, you just aren't feeling the happy thoughts.  Sometimes life happens and pregnancy sucks.  Sometimes you just eat the cookie and guzzle a milkshake and lay in bed all day and pregnancy sucks.  Sometimes you ache, you complain and you're exhausted trying to feel better.  Now where can you turn?  Negative thoughts and negative birth stories are often forbidden among "positive birth groups."

Sometimes, you feel like you do everything "right" and it just doesn't make a difference.  (Maybe not an immediate difference, anyway).

Want to know one of the most amazing parts of having a perinatal mentor?

You can tell me your secrets.

The thing about sharing your negative feelings is that you're able to better let them go so you can focus more on the positive aspects of your pregnancy, birth, and life.  Having a safe space, or mentor, to talk out those thoughts can be an invaluable part of your healing process from a previous birth, overcoming a fear from someone else's birth or working through personal struggles in your relationship and life.  Sharing your journey of positivity AND the not so positive is the best approach to a truly wholesome experience.

Sometimes birth sucks; it's true.  For some women, accepting this reality allows them to remember their birth in a much more positive light than if they felt mislead or their experience was suppressed because it was too negative to publicly share in the group they felt most connected to.  For some women, getting back to some raw feelings during pregnancy or even during labor can help them to move past something that may have annoyed them or angered them and isn't allowing their labor to progress.  We live in a very pc world, but those labor instincts don't always play nice with saving face.  Sometimes you just have to let it out and get raw.

Sometimes, birth sucks because...

  • You're tired.
  • You've been laboring for multiple days.
  • You've had a lot of prodromal labor.
  • You're scared.
  • Your family is annoying you.
  • Your birth team is annoying you.
  • Your birth location is unsupportive of your wishes.
  • Too many routines working against biology.
  • Too many people in your birth space.
  • Too much stuff going on in your birth space.
  • You had to make decisions differently than what you expected.
  • You had a birth experience differently than anticipated.
  • You're hungry or thirsty.
  • You keep vomiting when you eat or drink.
  • Your labor sensations feel overwhelming.
  • You weren't ready for a baby.
  • Your birth team feels too distant.
  • Your birth team feels too in your space.
  • You got the backup provider, especially if you don't mesh with them.
  • You have a physical ailment that is draining your energy.
  • What can you add to this list?

You don't have to love pregnancy.  You don't have to love birth.  You don't have to love breastfeeding.  You don't have to follow some specific protocol about the way you feel about your birth journey.

You have permission to feel like birth sucks.  You have permission to feel whatever you want about your birth, and to stop hiding it.

It doesn't always suck, I promise.  There will always be some positive points you'll be able to experience during pregnancy and birth - these are different for each of us.  One thing to remember is that talking about some of those positive points when recalling the negative points ensures that you don't mentally rewrite your birth story as only being negative.  Our brains are amazing organs capable of tricking us in so many ways and we can use that to our benefit.

[blockquote]"There is a secret in our culture and it is not that birth is painful but that women are strong” - Laura Stavoe[/blockquote]

If you're feeling like pregnancy or birth sucks, let's chat.  Let's explore why.  As a perinatal mentor, not only can I listen to your story, I can provide resources for remedying fears you may have, anger you may feel or just generally needing someone to listen to you tell your story that other groups may not feel prepared to hear.  Definitely a huge benefit of private birth classes and mentoring sessions.  You get to feel all the feels in this space along with guidance for supported your specific situation.

 

So, now you've found this door... how will you use it?  Will you nurture what's inside and allow the beauty to be seen?  It might take some fear, some tears and some hard work - but these parts of you don't have to be a secret anymore. #ALLthebirths

Birth Mentor as a Pregnancy Resource

Birth Classes for #ALLtheBirths

Not your typical What to Expect class - I don't teach you how to be a good patient.  I don't just cover unmedicated vaginal birth or just medical birth.  My passion is preparing you and your support system for biological birth, which includes everything from unassisted birth at home to fully medicated and emergency unexpected experiences.  I nurture you into a confident consumer excited for pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and parenting - no matter where you choose to birth or where your birth journey takes you.  Take back your birth, improve your health, and get ready to take the first step into an empowered parenting experience.

Perinatal mentoring provides a mother and her support team with educational and counseling support during pregnancy and prior to conception.  It is never too early (or late) to start birth classes, join a birth series, or schedule a chat and counseling session.  The sooner you start learning about the birth industry and birth physiology, the more time you have to make changes if desired to wellness, care provider and birth location.  The more time you have to learn about the normalcy of birth, the more confident you will feel as you reach the end of your pregnancy.

Perinatal mentoring is available locally in and around the Mid-Ohio Valley as well as through scheduled online classes with me in any time zone compatible to EST, as well as through self-paced online birth classes anywhere in the world.  I have locations I can hold classes or we can meet in your home.  We can set time aside for a long walk while we chat or even while helping you with nesting and designing your nursery.  If you just wish you had someone to do walk this journey with you that also has extensive resources, knowledge and total understanding that this is an amazing, sometimes overwhelming, time of your life - let's connect!  I'd love to help you alleviate your fears and work towards your happy healthy birth.

Standard 10-Session Series

Providing antenatal doula support in the form of information and mentor sharing to reduce birth fear, increase body mobility, and provide choice options is a significant focus of my services.  This doula service provides 20 hours of support online and/or at a location of your choice (within 30 minutes of my home) or at one of my standard class locations.  This is a complete 10-session Esali Birth series with everything from healthy pregnancy and tests to labor, birth, breastfeeding and postpartum covering everything from completely unmedicated and unassisted birth (by choice or unplanned) to changes, birth guides, medical and emergency birth.  The self-paced Esali Birth Online Class is included with this option making review easy, or sharing with a birth team member overseas or a conflicting work schedule.  This also provides us with the opportunity to use in-person time for answering any questions that come up and not worrying about missing any important details.  Mid-Ohio Valley local clients receive access to my lending resource library.  See below for outline or contact for a private custom series.

  • $300 Private Sessions
  • Sliding Scale for Group Sessions depending on group amount

6 Session Series

This option is the same as a standard 10-session series with a few topics removed and a few combined.  The self-paced complete Esali Birth Online Class is included with this option which makes the few topics that are removed easily filled-in with self-paced web learning.  Mid-Ohio Valley clients receive access to my lending resource library.  See below for outline, or contact for a private custom series.

  • $200 Private Sessions
  • Sliding Scale for Group Sessions depending on group amount

3 Session Series

This option is great as a refresher birth class or if time is limited.  The Esali Birth Online Labor and Birth Overview course is included with this option as a great self-paced birth refresher course thoroughly covering the end of pregnancy, labor, birth, birth partner tips, and postpartum. Mid-Ohio Valley clients receive access to my lending resource library.  See below for outline, or contact for a private custom series.

  • $100 Private Sessions
  • Sliding Scale for Group Sessions depending on group amount

Mentoring & Single Sessions

1-hour single session mentoring allows you to custom cater classes to your personal needs in multiple sessions or just one session.  Mentoring sessions are great for pre-conception, prenatal, herbal counseling, and postpartum mentoring and are catered to you specifically to answer all your questions, alleviate your concerns, and offer educational guidance for options available.  This option also allows you to pick and choose topics to cover for a custom pre-conception or birth series.

  • $30 Private Session

All classes focus on Health AND Happiness and are catered to both Mom AND her birth partner/team.  It is ALL about navigating the birth industry, reducing fear, gaining knowledge, creating health and wellness, and doula 101 - a completely holistic and wholesome format.

Mentoring provides complete perinatal (pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum) education, giving parents the information and resources to obtain the birth they choose with knowledge of how to positively achieve a beautiful and powerful birth experience and includes:

  • Perinatal/Childbirth Physical, Nutritional, & Emotional Health
  • Natural Labor & Birth Techniques including various methods of Relaxation
  • Labor & Childbirth Stages, Signposts, Positive Positions, & Labor Practice
  • Perinatal Routine Interventions & Alternative Education
  • Birth Preparation (Guide/Plan/Wishes) & Support (Doulas & Birth Team)
  • Breastfeeding & Newborn Care
  • Medical Benefits, Risks, & Alternatives for Perinatal Choices
  • Priorities & Realistic Expectations for the Perinatal Period
  • Emergency Childbirth & Assisted Deliveries
  • Variations of Normal Birth
  • Postpartum & Newborn Care
  • Positive Birth Stories & Childbirth Videos
  • 10-Week, 3-Day, & Pay-Per-Class Education Options
  • Payment Plans & Scholarships
  • Online/Virtual Perinatal Seminars & Courses
  • Community Involvement, Support, & Educational Workshops
  • Lending Library, Handouts, Positive Videos, & Much More!

Insurance Reimbursement

My doula services, including antenatal doula mentoring, labor doula, and postpartum doula care may be reimbursable by your insurance company.  Fees are required to be paid in full and you must submit your own claims; however, I will provide my NPI number and supporting information to help you with your claim submission.  In many cases, a well-written letter explaining how you believe doula support reduced costs for your birth, as well as persistence, will provide you with a reimbursement.  Please contact for any questions.

Birth Class Topics

Standard 10-Session Birth Series

(Topics with an *asterisk are included in a 6-session series)

Introduction

  • Esali Birth Overview
  • Creating a Relationship
  • History of Birth

*Choices

  • Care Providers
  • Birth Locations
  • Health & Wellness

Pregnancy

  • Conception
  • Gestation
  • Prenatal Routines

*Comfort

  • Hormonal Patters in Labor
  • Spontaneous Labor & Birth
  • Relaxation, Low/No-Pain Labor, Doula Support

*Labor

  • Labor Signs
  • Birth Team & Birth Environment Influence on Labor
  • Transformation of Labor (Physical & Emotional experiences in labor)

*Birth & The First Hours

  • Moments of Birth
  • Placenta Birth
  • Quiet, Calm, Dark & The Safety & Health of the Newborn's First Hours

Techniques

  • "Doula 101" & The Labor Bag
  • Relaxation Techniques
  • "Spinning Babies"

*Variations

  • Changes to Biological Labor & Birth
  • Planned & Unplanned Unassisted Birth
  • Emergency Birth, Assisted Birth, Cesarean Birth & Recovery

*First Weeks

  • Postpartum
  • Breastfeeding
  • Newborn Care

*Finally Family

  • Fertility Awareness
  • Birth Guides
  • Review Q&A/Discussion
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